How do you know if someone is in your soul tribe?

1. You ‘know them’ without even knowing them.
2. They feel like sunshine for your soul.
3. There’s no time for small talk.
4. You feel light and bright around them.
5. You feel safe to be soft and vulnerable.

Wow! It has been 9 months since I last wrote a blog post. I have been very busy helping run our business, and doing my own work on myself.

This pandemic has hit me really hard, as it has many people. Since I closed my massage practice, I have been alone almost the whole time, as I work from home and Chris works at jobsites. For the most part, I have done ok with that, but it has made me become a little reserved with others. Most of the time I don’t notice it, but other times it is very apparent. Sometimes it takes something taking you out of your norm to really see it.

For those who don’t know, there is something called your “Soul Family”. Those are the people you meet that you are SUPPOSED to meet sometime in this lifetime. When you meet them, it is different than meeting others. You feel like you have known them forever-they feel like your parent, siblings or children from your birth family, and you feel an immediate connection to them.

When I met my husband over 30 years ago, he was 18 and I was 24. We were very young, and very different than we are now. I was blown away–I felt like I loved him from day 1, and was very confused as to why I would feel that. In fact, in my head, I dedicated the Cat Stevens song “How Can I tell you” about telling someone you love them. I didn’t understand these emotions I was feeling so fast. I helped him out with a place to live, and spoiled him at Christmas after knowing him only 4 months. ALL my friends and family warned me I was setting myself up for heartbreak, but I didn’t care. I brushed them all off. I, knowing nothing about my intuition, was following it. I loved him, even though I didn’t understand how that was possible. 30 years later, we are happily married. I know now he is my twin flame, and we were supposed to meet, and be together. I have never felt a connection with a stranger like that….until now.

Enter my new friend. We decided we needed an employee. I was looking through resumes online, and saw his-when I saw he lived 30 minutes from us, I kept going. In the next 2 days, I saw his name about 10 times. I finally saw this vision of someone on the “other side” waving his resume in front of me. Being one to listen to these intuitive hits, I said fine, and sent him an invite. The rest is history.

It has now been (only) 3 months. I have tried my hardest to keep up the work boundaries, as I am one of his bosses. But I had this deep feeling of connection that I could not explain to anyone. JUST like with Chris, but in a different way. It was a total friendship way, like we were supposed to meet and become friends for life. The song that came to me for him was Nickelback’s “How you remind me” and the line “This is how you remind me of what I really am” played in my head over and over for a week! I listened to it at least 10 times, trying to understand WHY. But at the same time, I couldn’t stop wanting to help him. Again, I kept getting warned to keep up those work boundaries. I tried really hard. I did. But when he was having a hard time, I finally jumped over those boundaries, and had to help. We had some really good heart-to-heart talks, and I felt like I suddenly had this friend that I had been waiting for. I was honest with him, and talked about boundaries. He totally understood, and we decided when working, I was his boss, and when not working, we were friends. As long as we were both good with that, that is what matters.

The weird thing was what started happening to me. I got out of my head, and my own way. I felt whole again, and like I was ready to be out in the real world again, and be my own better version of myself. I am very thankful to have an understanding husband who gets my quirky ways, and agrees with them, and is cool with this craziness. They are very much alike, and have a lot in common in different ways. I believe we were ALL supposed to meet for different reasons, and are ALL Soul Family.

My eyes are being opened in ways they never have. I am looking at things, including myself, differently after all this. I am even releasing my old money story, and being more generous than ever. I still hear the little voice in my head doubting everything, saying I’m being pushy, and find myself fighting with my own self over it. But I realize that little voice is actually my reptilian brain (my ego), not my true inner voice, as THAT voice tells me to keep following my heart, and not my head. It says we are in eachothers lives for a reason, and are all helping each other in needed ways.

Even after figuring out he was helping me see who I really am, I STILL kept hearing that line in my head, like I wasn’t getting the whole message. So I sat down again to figure it out. I then realized it was also for him, as we were reminding HIM who HE really is. From day one, I have seen through him into his soul, as that is, to me, what a soul connection is. I see the good, the calm, the true being that others may not immediately see. I see past the protective wall. I have not really had a connection like that with many people besides Chris. Chris was more intense as it was true love, and this is true friendship. I told him I am a powerful intuitive (I had never said those words out loud), and now I FEEL like one! I have helped him release alot of sadness already. It definitely enhanced my work, and made it more powerful, which has helped both of us.

It has also helped us build an awesome work family that we will have for a long time to come. That is a great feeling, too.

Big question for me is, will I show him this blog? Yeah, I do believe I will, when I’m ready. My ego says don’t because he may think you are crazy! But my heart says he will totally get it! And I’m banking on that! (UPDATE: Yes, I showed this to him, and he totally got it!)

Until next time (and I’m pretty sure it will be soon, as inspiration hits more now!)….